What you should know about the different key aspects about the second stage of love as a couple.
Once the phase of falling in love has been overcome, where idealization is the main characteristic, the stage begins where knowledge, commitment and love are the fundamental aspects of this phase, since it is here when both members of the couple know each other. the positive and negative aspects of the other, commitments are made and trust is built.
What happens at this stage?
At this moment, the relationship evolves to a more emotionally stable phase, the physical connection, which was previously uncontrolled and lustful, now begins to be calmer and the physical attraction stabilizes, here a physical and emotional balance is reached between the two. two people.
Couples at this stage realize if this is really the person they want to be with and if it is the type of relationship they are looking for and with which they feel good, or on the contrary, if it is not the right person, since People begin to really see who the person next to them is and whether they like what they see about that person or not.
Another aspect of this stage is the shared responsibility that the couple acquires between themselves and the mutual effort to improve themselves and work on the relationship so that it works, this strengthens the emotional bond that has been created from day one, it begins to share more time together and of better quality and begin to make future plans that were planned in the falling in love phase.
At this stage is when the couple usually makes the decision to live together, get married and even start a family, since at this point in the relationship they feel safe, valued, appreciated and cared for by the other, since they have left. building and developing trust little by little and it is also common for them to begin to have some arguments, misunderstandings or disagreements, but well processed, all these moments help to grow and strengthen the relationship.
For a stable and healthy relationship, it is necessary to establish joint priorities while respecting individual freedom, also abandon the insecurities of negative experiences of the past and focus on combining both personalities, experiences and unique approaches to life based on understanding, respect and trust. All of this will not only help strengthen the relationship, but will also contribute to the growth and development of both as a couple.
How long does the intimacy stage last?
The duration of this stage depends on each couple and how much time they need to open up to each other, show their imperfections and defects and work on acquiring common commitments. It is normally considered to last between one and four years. At the end of these first four years of the relationship is when the "first big crisis" usually occurs. If this is overcome, we will move on to the next stage. If not, this is why many relationships end at the end of this stage. stage.
"Love is not looking at each other but rather looking both in the same direction.". - Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
What happens when the intimacy stage ends?
In the transition between the stage of intimacy and that of real love, a critical point called "disappointment" occurs. It is so called because when the imperfections and defects of the couple become visible, which in the stage of falling in love had been ignored, they can now become visible. perceived and are clearer, this causes some couples to begin to argue and get angry over unimportant things and feel less loved or cared for than before, everything. This makes the couple question whether this relationship is worth the effort and this is when many couples decide to end their relationship.
If, on the other hand, the couple manages to overcome their differences, learn to accept the other and strive every day to improve themselves and decide that they love each other enough, then this phase is overcome, giving way to a stage in which the relationship has a more realistic and mature vision, I will talk about this stage in my next article.
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